Scarlett Johansson recently did an interview with Playboy and at one point she talks about marriage and monogamy. (Johansson married Ryan Reynolds in 2008 – their divorce was finalized in 2011. In 2014, she married Romain Doriac. This January, it was announced that they had separated in the summer.) Here’s what she had to say about humans being monogamous:
What do you think? I agree that being monogamous has its challenges for sure – and if that’s the marker for whether something is ‘natural’ or not, I agree with her. In a lot of ways, it’s not.
It’s weird for me to even consider non-monogamy as an option. I definitely grew up with the plan to marry one person and stay together for life. I have yet to take that step, but that’s still the idea. Part of me just doesn’t fully understand it – I’m sure it depends on the people involved, but in polygamous relationships, do you still have ‘the one’ that you’re loyal to and ultimately committed to, but you each also have people that meet other needs? It makes sense that one person can’t meet ALL of your needs, but I don’t think I could handle sharing “my” person. It would crush me. But then again, maybe that has more to do with my own insecurities.
This article Why You Should (and Shouldn’t Be) Monogamous brings up some interesting points about trust/betrayal/sex/honesty.
It’s definitely an interesting discussion – let me know what you think!